tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27817243.post6372667720865261419..comments2024-03-24T03:28:37.007-04:00Comments on Life With Joey: ReinforcementJoeymomhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08254601805621175842noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27817243.post-56872746033286777132012-10-03T15:58:37.873-04:002012-10-03T15:58:37.873-04:00I understand completely and I have felt the very s...I understand completely and I have felt the very same way at times. All we can do is love them and be there for them and try to protect them as much as possible. ((Hugs))kristihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17987700142247888708noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27817243.post-51978965857689691872012-10-03T15:17:16.959-04:002012-10-03T15:17:16.959-04:00STOP IT.....
Back up....
We bang against a disab...STOP IT.....<br /><br />Back up....<br /><br />We bang against a disability we don't understand, yet understand much more than even so called "professionals" do.<br /><br />We bang against a system that has rules and ways of doing things that sometimes aren't the least bit helpful and other times work very well.<br /><br />I got complacent last year. Then my 12yr old self destructed - he'll be 13 in a week. It took me from Jan to the end of Aug to finally understand what was going on and get everything sorted. He's now on Adderall and Strattera and he can cope once more. The school is working hard at their end to rebuild the verbal and emotional filters... they could have taken the crap that was coming out of his mouth at face value but instead listened and went to work fixing it.<br /><br />It hasn't always been this way even in that very same school. I'm lucky that they finally "get it". I'm lucky that the highschool he's going to next year "gets it".. which is why we chose that one not the other one.<br /><br />I have a 10yr old that all of a sudden won't go out for recess (he'll be 11 in a couple of months). That has gone back to weather and clock watching. Ironically is emotionally normal but has more OCD than the elder - thankfully what we can deal with but I fear puberty and it getting worse. I also dread his next school placement and will if we have to homeschool him until highschool (Gr 7/8) where he'll go to the eldest's school where they have a great spec ed program.<br /><br />Sometimes we get lucky... sometimes we don't. Sometimes things run well... sometimes they really go off the rails.<br /><br />Start with what you can fix... does he need meds?? Strattera deals with the flight/fight/sensory/aggression/anxiety and I think it's the greatest thing we've tried. It's not cheap. Adderall does concentration and can make the other things worse - which is why we are are the minimum dose of it.<br /><br />Then worry about the rest... you've told them and told them and told them... maybe it's time you left them to figure it out... although I HATE being out of the loop... sometimes we have to be to teach the school and make them understand what we're talking about.<br /><br />Hope he settles into school soon.farmwifetwohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02680758336779501712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27817243.post-14537179162567227612012-10-03T13:59:23.780-04:002012-10-03T13:59:23.780-04:00I'm going to put this in all caps because you ...I'm going to put this in all caps because you really, really need to hear it:<br /><br />YOU HAVE NOT FAILED JOEY.<br /><br />You are an excellent mother. I know you know this even though sometimes that knowledge can be obscured by overwhelming difficulties. <br /><br />I have felt that hopelessness too. Meds help (me) and time and a good day. I hope there are good days too. This year is so hard on Joey, but that is not because he is a bad kid or because he doesn't love learning or because you are a bad parent. It is because the school hasn't found a way to encourage and teach him. You are working so hard to work with them to help them find that way. I hope they see that and understand that because you are just trying to help them at the same time that you help your boy.<br /><br />Love you.Stimeyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09685801693683588805noreply@blogger.com