Wednesday, November 23, 2011

Getting Ready

Joey loves to cook. At least, he likes mixing things, and he likes that there is usually food at the end of the process. I've been using this for a variety of reinforcements. Having trouble understanding how to set up a science experiment? Bingo! Cookies. Need some extra hand strength? Bingo! Cookies. Need to work on following instructions? Bingo! Cookies.

Then i wonder why we all have a weight problem. Except Andy, who doesn't care for cookies.

This year, we've been moving it along a notch. I had Joey help me make whipped sweet potatoes last week. This week, we tackled cranberry bread. This is a real feat, because this isn't a throw-it-in-the-bowl recipe. You have to stop and cut in butter cold, requiring hand strength and stamina as you have to grind the cold butter and the sifted flour with your hands, and you have to do it quickly so the butter doesn't melt from touching it. If you know how to cut butter, you know it isn't hard, just tiring if you don't have good hands.

But Joey gave it a good go, and actually did a fabulous job:

The bread looks perfecto. We're having it tomorrow at dinner. I can hardly wait!

Tuesday, November 22, 2011

Driving to School

Andy has become a morning car rider.

It started when he complained of headaches- in the afternoon, getting off the bus. At first, I investigated possibilities of trouble on the bus. A child was poking him and teasing him, so we had his seat changed. Earplugs were offered, but that caused trouble, too. Questions were asked about comfort. Then we got reports of morning trouble at school. He would have issues, then would "clear up and have a fine afternoon." I was suspicious. Then he just flat-out asked if I could drive him. he wanted to be car rider, because of the headaches.

So in the morning, I have been taking him to school, so he can at least start the day quiet and headache-free. I really can't fetch him in the afternoon, because I can't sit in line, grab him, and be home in time to get Joey. Instead, I try to give him some time to calm before pressing homework upon him. Homework is a whole other can of sensory and being-7 worms, subject to new strategies as the old ones wear thin and wear out.

Tomorrow is out first of what will, should this one go well, be a series of meetings to get Andy's needs met so he can focus on his learning, rather than bouncing or dealing with headaches or having tired hands all the time. At least we'll be through Hoop 1 before the Turkey Holidays. But at the same time, anxiety gnaws. Will we be brushed aside yet again? How much of what we are seeing is ADHD, how much sensory problem, how much of it Andy needing attention and getting it in a way he sees as working? Does he need more attention? What supports does he need to learn to cope with ADHD and sensory issues? What surety will I have that those accommodations will be honored? What else is going on that I am missing? What will I do if we're told he needs nothing, doesn't qualify for service or accommodation?