So we're working on a new system for helping the boys understand expectations: pick up the toys, don't kill each other, that sort of thing. So we took them to Friendly's, sat down with french fries and paper, and hashed out what we think is fair and helpful. We wanted no more than ten rules, and if they get through the day obeying those rules, they get a check or a sticker or something. And in the end, if they earn enough checks or stickers or something, they get a Prize Box. Woo-hoo!
Here is what we've come up with:
Make the bed every morning.
Except for apples and water, ask for food or snacks.
Don't do anything that makes anyone else scream or say "ouch".
The bathroom floor must be clear and dry after any bath.
Keep hands and feet to yourself.
Speak respectfully to everyone, using only respectful words.
Do what is asked, right away, and with a smile.
Treat others as you wish to be treated.
All toys must be taken upstairs and put away at bedtime.
This is kind of a first draft, but not bad for being discussed over ice cream.
The lady at the next table actually stood up as they were leaving and kindly expressed approval of our boys, of our parenting, and how we were discussing the matter. How's that for awesome?